I’ve been married to my husband Paul for 15 years.
I have an 18-year-old son, Jude, from a previous relationship, and Paul has a teenage daughter from his first marriage.
Jude will start college this year, but my husband Paul refuses to pay his tuition. Instead, he wants to spend money on a car for his daughter’s 16th birthday.
I said that spoiling his daughter with a car at 16 isn’t that necessary but my son’s education is crucial.
So, I suggested to him that he gets a less lavish gift for his daughter.
Paul got angry and declared, “Well, Jude’s dad is a lazy man who never worked a day in his life.”
He then added, “don’t expect me to deprive my daughter of a nice gift just because your son’s dad won’t step up and take his duties as a father seriously.”
To my disappointment, he declared “Even though I love him, Jude is no longer my responsibility now that he is 18”
I am crushed by my husband’s behavior, especially since he’s always been a good father figure for my son. How should I handle this situation?